So here is the Q and A for anyone who wants to know!
Is PBF (preppy boyfriend) moving to San Francisco with you?
Photo courtesy of homecookkirsten's blog
The answer is yes, of course. PBF and I have been together for four years, and after one year of dating we moved from Arkansas to New York so he could attend the culinary school, we then moved to Orlando, FL so he could do his externship for culinary school. After extern we moved back to New York for his last year of school. It just seems natural and beyond question that he would move for me to go to school after all the moving I did to follow him :) - That sounds snarky, and I don't mean it that way at all, I feel honored that I had the opportunity to live in each of those places, and all of our moving experiences brought us closer together as a couple as we struggled with job changes and finance changes and any other imaginable stress associated with moving.
Will PBF have to find a new job or can he do his current one from there?
PBF has an excellent job working for the culinary school he graduated from.
He travels and does cooking demonstrations for high school cooking classes and he judges regional and national cooking competitions. He can do this job from anywhere.
Even better, the culinary school he attended has a wonderful campus in Napa Valley, which is only about 15-20 minutes from Mare Island (where I'll be attending medical school). So if he doesn't want to travel across the country he could possibly work on campus.
In addition, I only applied to medical schools that are in areas that would enable him to pursue a career in the culinary field. So should he decide he wants to change jobs San Francisco, Sonoma, and Napa Valley are all within a short distance of where we will be living and he should have plenty of opportunity to find a new job.
I am a type A planner. I plan everything, and have several back up plans. Whereas PBF is more the sort of person who waits and sees what happens and then decides from there. So, while I've known since I was 12 that I wanted to be a doctor, he is still deciding what kind of career he wants. Although this difference in personalities sometimes creates friction for us, I am completely in support of him finding any kind of career that makes him happy. From personal work experience, I also know the value of working in many different fields and environments to develop professional skill sets so whatever he chooses to do there I am excited for him, because I see lots of opportunities (and because I am a planner and these things seem more tangible to me than they do to him, I am more excited about these opportunities than he is).
Will you be starting in the winter or the fall?
With this particular school the question is actually will I be starting in July or August. I have the option to pursue my Masters in Public Health while pursuing my MD. If I choose to do that I will start in July, if I choose to only pursue my MD I will start in August. I still have a few weeks to decide, but as for now I'm learning towards not pursuing my masters. I think medical school will be challenging enough without trying to get a dual degree!
If there are any other questions you'd like to know don't hesitate to ask!